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Climax, Anti-Climactic [Apr. 10th, 2005|04:26 pm]
Young Geoffrey
What was, until yesterday, my room has a corner piled high with bags of clothes and boxes of books that are not mine. A hulking, dangerous-looking stereo broods upon the floor like some below the window, subwoofers atop the speakers like futuristic rocket-launchers - I am almost afraid to approach the bass-throbbing beast.

It's official. Laura lives here now, and will until at least the end of June (barring one or the other of us having a surprise psychotic breakdown), at which point we will decide whether things are working such that we wish to continue the arrangement. I, of course, hope to hell that we do.

We made the move yesterday. Sck5000 kindly provided us use of his vehicle and we managed to shift everything in 2 trips. Laura's step-mum said hardly a word to me, for which I was thankful; telling your kid to get out with virtually no notice or reasonable explanation with only 2 months or so left of school is not something that leaves me impressed. Just before we left with the second load, while Laura was saying her goodbyes, she offered Jane (the wicked step-mother) a hug and was rebuffed by crossed arms and a curt, "I'd rather not."

Thanks, Jane - yer a fucking peach (or "beetch", but that's a story for another day. Well, why another day? It's my journal, I'll digress if I want to. Sometime last week, Laura and I took a walk up Roncesvalles, hunting for deli stuff at a late hour. We wandered into one of the many Polish delicatessens on that street and I took my position by the cheese counter. Two staff members gossiped by the till at the far end of the store. After perhaps a minute or two one of them looked up. "Yes?" she asked, without moving. "I'd like some service," I said, and she - slowly, as if resenting the imposition of an actual customer in her establishment - began to move towards us. And I suddenly snapped; I don't pay money to be treated like an asshole. "Never mind," I said, "we'll take our business elsewhere." I walked fast to the door and out; Laura followed more slowly and had the dubious pleasure of hearing the woman, in a heavy Polish accent, mutter "Beetch!" at my back. Anyway).

And so, here we are. We're sharing the bedroom, but it is also doubling as her office; we're sharing my office (whence lives the computer), but I am the dominant partner in that small space.

Will it work? I hope so. I even, in my optimistic moments, think so.

It's a strange way to end my life-long bachelor-hood, suddenly and without anything other than some beers with Laura and SCK5000 as ritual celebration of the new places in which we both find ourselves. But perhaps appropriate - we are the couple that could not remember the precise date of our first anniversary.
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From: 10021
2005-04-10 09:25 pm (UTC)
Wow. It's certainly an interesting turn of events. What an awful thing for her stepmother to do. I guess, though, it means they're no longer seeing her as a child.

If you want this thing to work, I'd suggest you move into a larger space. It's difficult enough to get used to living with someone without having to add the stress of not enough space. So it's really not even a fair enough test to see if it works out, because you're in extraordinarily cramped conditions.

Good luck to you both!
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2005-04-10 09:36 pm (UTC)
I guess, though, it means they're no longer seeing her as a child.

Well, Jane clearly isn't. For several quite legitimate reasons, her father is not in a position to do anything about it.

"...I'd suggest you move into a larger space.</i>

It's not as bad as all that, fortunately. As Toronto apartments go, I we have a pretty big one. The bedroom is substantial, the common area is larger and there is also an office so - as right this minute, for instance - Laura can work in her our room while I "work" in my our office.

Over the long run, though, we will want more room.
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[User Picture]From: queenofdemons
2005-04-10 11:58 pm (UTC)
sadly I've seen alot of friends through similar situations and found that even in the harshest of scenarios, the tiniest degree of caring is involved - albeit warped - it does exist.

Good to know you two are getting a taste of the 'grown up-together' life so many attempt! I'm in awe of you both!

You'll be fine, limited room or no, just get out of each others' hair when need be. =)

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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2005-04-12 12:30 am (UTC)
You'll be fine, limited room or no, just get out of each others' hair when need be. =)

I think we'll both be pretty good about that.
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[User Picture]From: ellie_elephant
2005-04-11 02:14 am (UTC)
Good luck to you both! Let's hope living together doesn't drive you mad!

(I have a few choice words on Jane That Fucking Bitch, but not knowing her, I shall refrain from saying anything. The image I have of her is that of the evil queen in Disney's Snow White.)
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2005-04-12 12:57 am (UTC)
Good luck to you both! Let's hope living together doesn't drive you mad!

Thanks - only time will tell. So far, at day three, we're doing okay. :)

As for Jane, what impresses me is that I am far more angry with her than Laura seems to be; I really admire Laura's sense of proportion.
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[User Picture]From: sooguy
2005-04-11 02:50 am (UTC)
Good luck with everything. I'm sure it will have its moments of stress. Learning to share each other's space 24/7 can do that to you. Also hopefully you'll both see the place as both of yours eventually.

I know some relationships suffer when one person feels too much like its the other's place. I haven't experienced it personally, but I have seen it happen. I think it largely depends on the personalities involved.

Take it easy.
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2005-04-12 01:00 am (UTC)
I know some relationships suffer when one person feels too much like its the other's place ... I think it largely depends on the personalities involved.

Yes. I'm making a concerted and - I hope - succesful effort to wrench myself away from thinking of this place as mine.
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[User Picture]From: amaaanda
2005-04-11 03:07 am (UTC)
That's terrible that her family is being retarded, but it's awesome that she has you. Hopefully, your squabbles will be minimal.
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2005-04-12 01:00 am (UTC)
Step-mother. I am fairly certain her dad wasn't happy with the decision.
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[User Picture]From: miyyu
2005-04-11 10:25 am (UTC)
Maybe anti-climactic is the way to do something like this. No big fanfair, just a quiet but perceptable shift.

Good luck to both of you! I'm sorry to hear about the circumstances, but maybe in the end it will be a good thing. At least now she doesn't have to deal with that awful woman any more.
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[User Picture]From: miyyu
2005-04-11 10:25 am (UTC)
Doh. I think I mean fanfare. My spelling skills are not the greatest at 6am.
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2005-04-12 01:01 am (UTC)
No worries: I read it as you meant it.
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[User Picture]From: offermeescape
2005-04-13 02:40 am (UTC)
I wish the best of luck for both of you. I can imagine how fragile things might seem at times when your relationship is being tested like this. Personal space is something people tend to get defensive about, and I hope you two can endure and prosper from the experience.
My girlfriend and I have determined that we could never live with each other.. apparantly putting a) a control freak and b) a control freak together in the same apartment isn't too wise an idea for a relationship to last?

Good that you walked out of that shop. There's so much bad service in Toronto stores.. I can't stand it. You're treated like a pain in the ass half the time..
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2005-04-17 02:41 pm (UTC)
A belated thanks for your good wishes. So far, mostly so good; if anything, things feel less fragile as the days have gone by.

I'm sorry about the situation with your girlfriend - but you've likely come to the right conclusion about the perils of two control freaks (if that really is the truth about your mutual personalities) attempting co-habitation.

My experience with service in Toronto isn't nearly as bad as yours seems to be - but then, I seldom return to a place that doesn't treat me well.
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