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Trust or, Random Gloats (With Pointless Apologies to Ian Blurton [Apr. 8th, 2004|08:05 pm]
Young Geoffrey
It's been a good week (or less). I've gotten laid, lent out a thousand bucks without a second thought (of the should I/or shouldn't I kind) and I got my contacts in in under a minute this morning. More, I've cut down on my drinking and I have no dope in the house. Monday, I hope to make it out to hockey and - who knows? - maybe I'll get back to work on that (fucking) novel.

* * *

Yes, I'm feeling pretty good. Sex is important to me and going without for too close to a year-and-a-half (not counting that uncomfortable January encounter my regular readers - are you guys still around? - may recall) is not healthy for Young Geoffrey.

Dinner itself didn't go too well. Though I made the curry milder than I usually do, L picked at it despite the plentiful cucumber and yogourt sauce. Happily, she didn't hold my culinary failure against me.

Part of me wants to go into detail, but the fact this is out in public (why am I doing this?) precludes that for me. Suffice it to say, that post-supper was among the best carnal experiences of my life, which is particularly surprising to me given that I am more than twice L's age. Apparently, she feels the same, so I am cautiously optimistic the evening wasn't a one-off affair.

Still, the situation does give me pause. Not only is there a huge age-gap between us, but she is somewhat of a submissive. S&M is a game with which I have little experience and I worry about taking things too far. So, in my last letter to her, I suggested we meet somewhere other than my place, to discuss limits and safe-words - and I'm still waiting for a response. Now I fear I've gone "too serious" on her. Well, only time will tell.

* * *

The money is another weird thing (if only in my mind). I have somehow become a good credit risk, and never mind that I haven't filed taxes in 11 years. My best friend has no credit card at all, so I "gave" him one of mine - he asked if I could buy him some contact lenses over the internet and it occurred to me I could just give him one of my cards. I've known him more than 20 years (I know - longer than the L has been alive) and trust him implicitly.

So, on Tuesday, I check my email just before leaving the office. His girlfriend (and my new, tentative, friend) wrote me to ask - with apologies and discomfort coming out of the yin-yang) had written to tell me she needed me to send an email to the travel agent, giving permission for her to use my card to charge a trip to Central America for her and him.

She dropped me a note earlier tonight saying "Thanks" and I had to reply, saying no thanks are necessary. I really do trust him implicitly, and am very close to feeling the same about her. I know they'll pay me back when the bill comes in, so - from my point of view - I haven't really done much of anything at all.

More discomfort, but also of the happy kind.

And meanwhile, the contact lenses are working better and better. On Monday (possibly after hockey), I go in for a follow-up and - barring a sudden eye-infection in the next couple of days - I'll be putting in an order for a year's supply. God, I love not wearing glasses!

Finally, I invited myself over to my friends who are heading out of the country a couple of nights ago. V's son, who is 13, saw my dog collar and found it most amusing. "Are you trying to look like a teenager?" he scoffed. I'm proud to say I didn't clout him.
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[User Picture]From: fromaway
2004-04-08 07:03 pm (UTC)
You haven't filed taxes in 11 years?

How does that work?
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-04-09 03:49 am (UTC)
It's not that hard, really. Get your taxes deducted at source, miss one year then, put off catching up the next year, and repeat.

I've got all the forms now and, fortunately, I kept good records; it's just a question of punching in the numbers, writing up a letter of "voluntary disclosure" and then waiting for the tax returns to roll in.

I suspect matters would be a lot more complicated if I owed them money. Also, Revenue Canada would likely have hunted me down long ago if I did.
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[User Picture]From: fadefromnothing
2004-04-08 08:42 pm (UTC)
Yes, I'm feeling pretty good. Sex is important to me and going without for too close to a year-and-a-half (not counting that uncomfortable January encounter my regular readers - are you guys still around? - may recall) is not healthy for Young Geoffrey.

You just spoke for me.
However, my little bout with newfound virginity hasn't been quelled as of yet.

Fuck.

I need me a younger woman. =)
(Heehee... that's not right...)

But those ten-year-olds do look a bit scrumptious.
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-04-09 04:01 am (UTC)
But those ten-year-olds do look a bit scrumptious.

Jesus. You've managed to creep me out.

Well done. The mark of good satire is when the target squirms at least a little.

I know you aren't interested in older men, but do you also think there is something wrong with those who are? (My own experience - having been involved with women both older and younger than I - leads me to believe that age is only one factor among many that determines whether and how any given two - or more; let's be broad-minded here - will get along.)
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[User Picture]From: fadefromnothing
2004-04-09 04:28 am (UTC)
Hey - I never said I was entirely not interested in older men. If I found someone who thought on the sort of wavelength I do, and didn't want children (that's major for me); asides from many other factors - I wouldn't give up that chance.

Besides, L sounds like quite the treat. I'd hate to reprimand you on the basis of a fucking number, whereas you two seem to click together quite well.

So no, there is nothing wrong with you, you freak. =)


As long as the other party's reached puberty, and it's consensual on both ends - why not?
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-04-09 05:10 am (UTC)
I never said I was entirely not interested in older men.

I thought you at some point said that anyone over 20 was too big a difference for you, but god knows I've been wrong before.

L is a treat. Brains and a high sex-drive are a wonderful combination. I just hope the two days since my last email to her don't mean she's changed her mind about repeating the experience. (Yes, I suffer from insecurity sometimes.)

I'm almost sorry you don't think there is something wrong with May/December affairs in principle; it might have made for an interesting discussion.

But we agree: as long as its consensual and neither party is actually a child, it's up to the people involved.
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[User Picture]From: vienneau
2004-04-09 09:12 am (UTC)

My GOD you inspire such weird feelings of "getting away with it all" at times...

Someone half your age? Wow, way to go! I mean, age is fairly irrelevant, especially physical age, but as someone who can appreciate the many qualities of a younger woman, and is rapidly worrying about my abilities to attract them as 30 becomes more and more distant behind me, you give a young lad hope that the girls will still want to visit in my future. Yay!

I just read it again, MORE than twice her age, and you're not that old. Where did you meet? How did you meet? Or did you describe that in an earlier post many months ago? I seem to recall an age issue back in October or something.

As an ardent voyeur, I think the solution for you is to post the details "friends only". Heck, create a special friend group for close friends (we're close, right?) and post it just for them. "[A]mong the best carnal experiences of my life" is the sort of grand description that begs to be explained, if only for the tips for the rest of us seeking constant improvement in our nighttime activities. Aside from the raunchy aspects, I'm actually interested in what qualifies an experience for that title.

As for not filing taxes - perhaps when you can't get your mind into writing you might want to get on that? It's your money they're holding! (though the government does pay a very high rate of interest, so currently it's an excellent investment)


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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-04-09 01:47 pm (UTC)
My GOD you inspire such weird feelings of "getting away with it all" at times...

It's all due to clean living. You should drink more.

Someone half your age? Wow, way to go! I mean, age is fairly irrelevant, especially physical age, but as someone who can appreciate the many qualities of a younger woman, and is rapidly worrying about my abilities to attract them as 30 becomes more and more distant behind me, you give a young lad hope that the girls will still want to visit in my future. Yay!

Er, thanks - I guess. But I fear you contradict yourself; going merrily along from "age is irrelevant ..." to saying you are "someone who can appreciate the ... qualities of a younger woman" really doesn't parse.

Still, I suppose there's some pleasure to being taken as a sort of decrepit beacon of hope for the future of your own perversion.

Ahem.

I just read it again, MORE than twice her age, and you're not that old. Where did you meet? How did you meet? Or did you describe that in an earlier post many months ago? I seem to recall an age issue back in October or something.

She's 18. We met through one of those ludicrous "rating" sites. First date was at Rhino's. Nothing to do with the "date" I had last fall; that was with someone who was 15 and neither she nor I had thoughts beyond conversation - well, I only presume that was the case for her.

As for your desire to peep into the physical parts of my life, for the nonce at least, I'll take your suggestion under advisement. Most likely, though, it will only work its way into my fiction. I'm shameless, but not completely so.

As for the taxes (thank god I can finally change the subject!), are you sure they'll pay interest on the outstanding returns? I'd been under the impression they didn't, more or less on account of we're supposed to file those returns annually in the first place. (Naturally, I hope you're right.)
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[User Picture]From: vienneau
2004-05-01 10:19 pm (UTC)
It's all due to clean living. You should drink more.

So far, so bad - I've been doing some steady drinking for a week now and simultaneously a friend betrayed a trust over a girl and dramatic hijinks abound, but not in my favour. But I'll persevere and see if things don't turn around!

"Er, thanks - I guess. But I fear you contradict yourself; going merrily along from "age is irrelevant ..." to saying you are "someone who can appreciate the ... qualities of a younger woman" really doesn't parse.

It's about different aspects. In terms of a mental relationship, physical age is irrelevant. If you connect with someone half your age, have the time of your life.

But in terms of the physical, I can *definitely* appreciate the qualities of a younger woman. Unfortunately a few too many of them aren't quite with me in mental age.

You've apparently managed to find an excellent blend of both, which is deserved of much envy!

Still, I suppose there's some pleasure to being taken as a sort of decrepit beacon of hope for the future of your own perversion.

I worship at your altar!

She's 18. We met through one of those ludicrous "rating" sites.

Really? That surprises me - I didn't think the ratings sites worked. Was it an LJ rating site or a "hotornot" kind of rating site? I'm a fan of the online meeting (my younger self worshipped at the Lavalife altar) so I'm always interested in new venues.

As for your desire to peep into the physical parts of my life, for the nonce at least, I'll take your suggestion under advisement. Most likely, though, it will only work its way into my fiction. I'm shameless, but not completely so.

Tease!

Of course, this means I'll be fervently reading all your fiction posts, which is no doubt what you've intended...

As for the taxes (thank god I can finally change the subject!), are you sure they'll pay interest on the outstanding returns?

Not 100% sure. I'm guessing they would if only because they would charge you interest if you didn't file and they are forced (due to the recent ruling) to treat both situations the same.

Really though, what have you go to lose? You're no doubt missing out on a wide variety of GST credits and sales tax credits and so on. Why *not* file and pick up the cash?

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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-05-02 05:57 am (UTC)
So far, so bad - I've been doing some steady drinking for a week now and simultaneously a friend betrayed a trust over a girl and dramatic hijinks abound, but not in my favour. But I'll persevere and see if things don't turn around!

I'm sorry to hear that (about the betrayal). Is your friendship going to survive the drama?

It's about different aspects. In terms of a mental relationship, physical age is irrelevant. If you connect with someone half your age, have the time of your life.

Ah, okay. So far, so good in my case.

But in terms of the physical, I can *definitely* appreciate the qualities of a younger woman. Unfortunately a few too many of them aren't quite with me in mental age.

"A few too many"? Shurely you mean the vast majority? :)

Really? That surprises me - I didn't think the ratings sites worked. Was it an LJ rating site or a "hotornot" kind of rating site?

It was, in fact, hotornot.com itself. I also met my ex through that site and, in fact, have met most of the women with whom I've gotten involved through personal adds of one kind or another.

Of course, this means I'll be fervently reading all your fiction posts, which is no doubt what you've intended...

Er, coming any day now! Really. *hands his head in shame for the second time this morning*

Really though, what have you go to lose? You're no doubt missing out on a wide variety of GST credits and sales tax credits and so on. Why *not* file and pick up the cash?

Soon, my precious, soon. (Did I mention that sloth is probably my major short-coming?)
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[User Picture]From: vienneau
2004-05-04 08:50 pm (UTC)
I'm sorry to hear that (about the betrayal). Is your friendship going to survive the drama?

Excellent question. The trust has definitely been stretched in a manner that makes it difficult to get to solid ground, but the friendship already had regular earthquakes and tremors so I'm not certain how it will turn out. It's revealed a bit about my friend (and probably about me) that I wasn't really paying attention to, and that's a bit, uh, disappointing I guess.

Unfortunately a few too many of them aren't quite with me in mental age.

"A few too many"? Shurely you mean the vast majority? :)


Well, I *am* pretty immature for my young age of 31!

I'm hopeful for the youth of today - but if confronted, I'd have to agree, it's probably the majority.

My goals in relation to younger women are often related more to the physical (where they excel) than the mental. While I would greatly enjoy meeting an extremely attractive mentally challenging woman of *any* age, I have found that quest a difficult one. So for now I accept either and hope for both.

It was, in fact, hotornot.com itself. I also met my ex through that site and, in fact, have met most of the women with whom I've gotten involved through personal adds of one kind or another.

I was a huge fan of the online meeting space last year but I'm not as certain how keen I am this year. I have to dive back into the pool and see how it is. I never thought hotornot would be a good place though. As I write this I have joined and put my face out to be judged! I expect to be deluged in young women by the end of the week...




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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-05-08 04:03 pm (UTC)
Unfortunately a few too many of them aren't quite with me in mental age.

"A few too many"? Shurely you mean the vast majority? :)

Well, I *am* pretty immature for my young age of 31!

I'm hopeful for the youth of today - but if confronted, I'd have to agree, it's probably the majority.


I fear I wasn't clear - I wasn't dissing young folks in particular, I was dissing folks in general.

I'm reminded of a woman I knew in Ottawa, recently come out of the closet as a dyke. During one of our sessions with a bottle of vodka, she once said to me, "You know, lesbians are as stupid as everyone else!"

To which I could only reply, "Well, duh."
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[User Picture]From: vienneau
2004-05-09 06:09 pm (UTC)
I may have been unclear myself - I agreed with your point that a vast majority of the young probably aren't mentally with me, but one did have to take into account my own immaturity thus providing me with a wider set of potential young equals.

I have to ask - did you indicate you wanted to meet her first, or did she want to meet you first? And did she mention her age in her profile? I'm reluctant to ever want indicate a desire to meet the younger femmes if only because I don't want to be thought of as a dirty old man, so I'm considering a strategy of just letting them come to me and hoping!
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-05-10 03:46 am (UTC)
I think she first proposed getting together - though my profile was specific that I didn't want any "matches" with people who were not at least potentially open to meeting in person. And part of my reluctance was indeed due to a concern - not so much with being seen as a dirty old man (though that's part of it) - but with not coming on too strong, too fast.

She did mention her age - well, her age plus 1 year, in order not to have her profile rejected by hotornot's moderators, a decidedly inconsistent bunch.
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[User Picture]From: vienneau
2004-05-11 08:11 pm (UTC)
Are you a paid member? I just got a match that looked intriguing and I'm now facing the $5.95 a month option. Not that I can't afford it, but I much prefer the "pay as you go" Lavalife method that allows me to not feel pressured to meet as many people as possible in a single month.

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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-05-12 05:41 am (UTC)
I was when I met Laura. I prefer the pay-as-you-go method as well; but on the other hand, hotornot is one hell of a lot cheaper than lavalife.
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[User Picture]From: vienneau
2004-05-20 12:01 pm (UTC)

Depends how you look at it. I spent $15 for 15 emails or so a year and a half ago and got to spend it over the course of 12 months. I'd spend $5, meet someone, date for a few months and then come back and spend another $5 in emails meeting someone new.

In hotornot, if I really like the first person I meet, I've spent $5.95 and get no additional value. Of course, it does allow me to meet 50 people for the same price.

I prefer having the option to spend when I feel like it - that way if I'm not in a dating mood, or I'm on vacation (like right now), I don't feel like I'm "wasting" my month of dating access.
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-05-21 03:11 am (UTC)
Oh, that's right: you had success on lavalife - I, on the other hand, came up spectacularly empty on my foray into its interweb-version.
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[User Picture]From: vienneau
2004-05-04 08:52 pm (UTC)
Wait a second - were you searching on the 18-25 age range specifically? Or were you searching by location and that's what came up? Or did *she* find *you*? Is your hotornot rating some astronomical number!?!??!?!
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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-05-08 04:04 pm (UTC)
No, I seldom bother specifying an age-range; being straight is enough of a limitation in terms of finding someone I might hit it off with. I was searching by location only.

Sadly, the last time I checked, my rating was a 6.1 or something.
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