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Lessons Learned [Jan. 7th, 2004|01:48 am]
Young Geoffrey
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Making dinner for a beautiful and brilliant woman who you also like an awful lot is a wonderful thing; but it </i>hurts</i> when you find out she's dumped her boyfriend for someone who isn't you.

And you want to rend your very garments when she cuts her visit short because that someone is (suddenly, unexpectedly) in town.

Shit.

I need to learn not to take online flirting seriously.

And I need to pay more attention to my brain. I knew she wasn't interested in me "that way" quite a while ago. But she never actually said so, and so, hope sprung up like weeds in a salted garden.

More the idiot me.
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[User Picture]From: carnivalnights
2004-01-11 08:20 pm (UTC)
First of all, you are not an idiot of any sort. When things are left undefined, it is only human to assume certain things. We like to keep hope around even when we feel, either on the surface or deep down, that there may not be any. I am sorry that had to happen to you though. I do believe she should have said something because I am sure you must have been sending some signals. (Women can be ignorant, I find, eh?)

I personally do not think the internet is completely useless for finding someone-- don't give up on that just yet. You never know... you may possibly be ridding yourself of something great.


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[User Picture]From: ed_rex
2004-01-15 12:33 pm (UTC)
... you are not an idiot of any sort.

Thank you. When I'm not wallowing in self-pity, I agree.

When things are left undefined, it is only human to assume certain things. We like to keep hope around even when we feel, either on the surface or deep down, that there may not be any.

With me, it is more often a disconnect between what I think and what I feel (hope). Happily, the incident in question has been worked through - the person in question has become a very good friend and I would hate like hell to have destroyed that.

I do believe she should have said something because I am sure you must have been sending some signals. (Women can be ignorant, I find, eh?)

She had made her intentions - or rather, her lack of them - quite clear. Being a very intelligent person, she hadn't said, "No, never!" but she gave me no concrete reason to think a door left unlocked would suddenly open to me. To over-simplify, I was feeling sorry for myself in general and that led me to feel disappointed about not receiving something I was never promised.

As for women being ignorant, well yes; but no more so than men. It's as much part of human nature to stumble as it is to reach for the stars.

I personally do not think the internet is completely useless for finding someone-- don't give up on that just yet. You never know... you may possibly be ridding yourself of something great.

I agree. I've met a number of people through the net (including, but not limited to) most of those with whom I've had capital-r Relationships over the past few years. Almost none of them were people I would likely have encountered in "real life".

When you get down to it, I love the internet! :)
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